Ever since I was a little girl I remember hearing how men are the hunters and women are the prey.
Now that I have grown up I see that this is not quite true mostly because men are too bored to go hunting and because women are mostly in charge. So why should they get tired since the prey can come to them by itself?
Of course men have not totally given up hunting. They do it now and then just to be in shape.
And they mostly remember their old habit when there is another hunter around. Suddenly they forget how bored they are and they want to become the A male in the flock. They can turn from couch potatoes into bulls when they hear that their prey has a boyfriend.
Usually women feel devastated when they find out that the man they desire has a girlfriend. They start calling their friends asking for comfort (you are 100 times better than her) and they spend hours in Facebook trying to find out who she is.
On the other hand men just don’t pay attention in phrases such as “I have a boyfriend”. They feel so confident that they are way better and they don’t care about their competitor.
Hearing problem or too much self esteem?
First time I saw that happening was in college.
Th. was hitting on K. even if she had told him that she was with someone else and she was not planning leaving her boyfriend. Th. did not mind at all. When I asked him why he insisted, he told me that men don’t feel threatened when they hear that the woman they want has another man. On the contrary they find it more intriguing.
Of course Th. was not the only one to blame. K. asked for it… she was hanging out with him, talking on the phone until late at night and she never introduced him her boyfriend. For Th. he was something like a ghost since he had not seen him face to face.
And it was not just Th.
Also, a few days ago another friend of mine was telling me about a guy who has been hitting on her for many years now. She says to him that she is in love with another man but he just doesn’t care. And she is not like K. She is not fooling around with him giving him fake hopes. But what can she do? Stop being polite?
And since when being polite means allowing the other to take the next step?
I think that men interpret our words and actions in the way it suits them best.
But if it’s true, we can use this for our own good. If we like someone, we could go and tell him that we have a boyfriend, hope to wake up their A male instinct.
PS. Have a happy new year and make sure to leave behind all the things that bother you so that you can start all over!
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