Summer is the best time of the year as long as you have the time and the money to do whatever you want! It is time to go to the beach, go out and stay up late every night and of course time for vacations!
You can rest, have fun, meet new people and take a deep, deep breath before you go back to your daily routine.
But lets talk about my summer! I decided to be a bit unfaithful to my boyfriend A. Don’t worry; I did not cheat on him (we are more than a year and a half together). I just spent half of my vacation with him and the other half with my friends.
I went with my friends to the beautiful Greek island Serifos the same days when A. went for vacation with his two boys (he is divorced). It is not that I don’t like the boys and didn’t want to spend my vacation with them, it is just that I am not ready to play “mom” yet. I don’t mind going out with them, or spending the weekend together in their father’s house, but a week is too much for me. It seems a huge responsibility.
Besides, the little one wakes up in his sleep when he is in a new room. I would be totally embarrassed if he suddenly entered the room where A. and I were sleeping (even if we were just sleeping). The good thing is that I don’t have to tell A. anything; he understands and does not ask many questions!
But let’s talk about the summer again!
Just me and my friends
Summer means more than beach and cocktails. It also means flings and flirting! I really don’t want to cheat on A. and if I flirted a little I only did it for research…
But I have to say that Greek men are not as “vivid” as they used to be in that area. Of course we were in a quiet island that doesn’t have a lot of night life, but there were plenty of men around. And we were three very good looking girls…
I cannot say that men were indifferent. They were staring, looking, even smiling sometimes, but did not make any move. It is not that they did not want to… we could see it in their eyes. But they just preferred to sit there and do nothing. Some of them only decided to talk when we were about to leave. “Are you leaving already” they said. “I have been standing for four hours with my high heels on. I am about to faint” I wanted to tell them but instead I said “It is really late. Tomorrow. (no more high heels this time)”.
Of course there were some men who did decide to talk. The kind of “I don’t have anything to lose” men. That is to say they were too young and were looking for experience, too old so it was now or never or too “losers” so they risked absolutely nothing.
And it is not that only we had this problem. I could see that “why” look in every girl’s eyes in the bar. Plus it was too crowded so I hear what they were saying… Also some girls changed seats whenever other women sat close to them. They probably could not stand the comparison, but it was all in vain.
Of course I admit that is was not the first time that I saw lazy – shy – hesitating men. You see they don’t just go out during the summer but throughout the whole year. My friend X. was quite shocked though. You see she just got her divorce. She was married for six years and she dated her ex husband for five. So she had not dated and flirted a lot for 11 years (note that she is older than me…). She wanted to have as much fun as she could and flirt as much as she could during her vacation but she was totally disappointed. Things have really changed the last decade.
Now you can say… if you saw that men were lazy, shouldn’t you have done something about it instead of just complaining? Why did you not make the first move? Well they are men so they are supposed to make the first move. We should not pamper them that much. Besides we played out part. We looked, and smiled and pretended having lost the lighter and we were looking for a new one to light up our cigarette… Wasn’t that enough?
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