Still waiting over the phone?
Telephone… one of the greatest inventions ever. It makes our lives so much easier. You can organize everything, change your plans, and ask for help in just a few seconds.
And especially cell phones… I really cannot remember my life without them.
But this small and cute thing is not always that innocent. It can get you into trouble!
Sometimes you just want to throw it on the wall and then step on it with your high heels. When does that happen? Of course when you are waiting for a phone call and it just doesn’t ring…
This usually happens when you give your phone number to a handsome stranger you met in a bar, at the subway, at the gym. He said he would call you but it was a week ago and you still have not heard from him… Isn’t that frustrating?
Change of rules
But lately things seem to have changed a little. Men don’t ask women for their telephone numbers very often but seem to prefer giving their own numbers instead.
That was exactly what my friend T. told me. Last week she met a cute guy at work. They were not working together but they met during a meeting. They talked and flirted for hours. At the end of the day he gave her his card and didn’t even bother to ask for her phone number. She hesitated for a while but at the end she told him to write down her phone number as well. What if she lost his card? He had a very common name it would be difficult to find him in Facebook!
At first she liked the card thing. He seemed dynamic, determined and confident. Plus she would not have to wait for him to make the first move. She could do it herself.
On second thought, was he dynamic or he just didn’t care. Why should he get in to trouble to chase her since she could do all the hard work? Was he confident or was he just bored? Besides he could think that if she bothered to call it could mean that she really liked him so she would not play hard to get.
It seems that some men make a part of the first move just to remember that they are supposed to be the A males but soon they change the rules of the game and let you do all the dirty work.
Who’s the boss?
T. was really pissed off because it had been four days since they first met and he still had not called her. He had not even sent her a sms. Of course she was not willing to call him. She would not make his life easier. I told her to relax and send him a “hello” sms and leave it to him to decide if he was going to ask her out. If he wouldn’t reply she would just forget him and go on with her life. She said no.
The more I think about it, the more I think she was right. Many men – and especially the cute ones – decide not to ask for a girl’s phone number not because they are shy or kind but because they find it so much easier to just lie down and wait…
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